Philosophy and NLP
Sorin Scutelnic is: “a hybrid of the two fields, philosophy and psychology.” Our Guest Thursday speaker, shared his experience as a professor, psychotherapist, trainer and specialist in Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Sorin holds a Master’s in Philosophy, Clinical Psychology and is also a PHD candidate of Philosophical Counseling at Academy of Science in Moldova. Most importantly, he loves what he does, but this was not always the case.
His academic path started at the College of Music, after which he was supposed to continue his studies at the Conservatory, instead Sorin chose to study Philology and Greek language. After two years of studies he had a revelation which would change the course of his life. Sitting in a phonetics class with a hundred other students mindlessly repeating the word ‘zmeoaica’ made him realize that he’s in a totally wrong place, which brought on deep self-analysis and existential feelings.
After reflecting on his choices, he understood that he has been programmed and his choices were not his own. Both of Sorin’s parents were linguists, so of course, he didn't really have a choice.
“A person has multiple selves and can act differently and generate distinct impressions at different times.”
“Sometimes we feel closer to someone else than to our ourselves, as we don’t spend enough time and effort to get to know who we are.”
“If you feel comfortable being silent near someone, than this is an intimate person to you.”
“We are shaped constantly by social pressure.”
Parents program their children, so in one way or another we have been pre-programmed. Sorin said that “children tend to follow the paths of their parents, they grow and make the choices that their parents premade for them.” It’s a common problem, said Sorin: “I work with people like that, who due to wrong choices, have a job they don’t like, study a major they don’t envision for themselves, or don’t know how to get away from relationships they don’t want to be in anymore. I help them ease and solve emotional conflicts.”
Sorin has personally experienced this. After learning that he wasn’t making his own choices, he quit pursuing something he didn’t envision for his future and started again. Once he started to pay attention to his interests he understood that he knew exactly what he wanted to do. Following the path of Philosophy, according to Sorin, was one of the best choices he had ever made in his life. Sorin advised all participants: “to be very careful with what you are doing, its very important to be fully committed and present in your choices.”
“Your profession should be a continuation of your inner self.”
“Your values should correspond to your profession.”
As a professor, Sorin spoke honestly with students about making transitions from education into the world of work. Sorin said that “often people don’t work in the field they studied, they switch to something else, statistics say only about 12% do work in the field in which they majored.” Sorin advised students to change fields if during their studies they realize that their choice was not right for them. To avoid shock post-graduation shock Sorin advised the participants to get involved in different activities besides their studies, volunteering is a good start!
You must find and do what you enjoy, there’s a difference between living your life in terms of quality versus quantity. Mostly people go after quantity forgetting the difference between:
“To be” and “to exist” are different concepts: ‘to exist’ is when you are in a place you don’t necessarily want to be in, ‘to be’ means when you are at ease with yourself.
“It doesn’t matter how long you live, but how qualitative your life is, how you feel about everything inside of you.”
“It matters a lot how you see things, your perception shapes your reality.”
Sorin mentioned the case of a woman who was sick of cancer, and how this disease ultimately changed her life. She quit doing the job she didn’t like and started painting, she was being more selective with the people she interacted and really started to appreciate and value life, every minute of it.
One of the participants asked: “What is NLP?”
“NLP it's a subject i teach at psychology, but just a part because it's very dangerous. Its a way of manipulating and programming through certain techniques that include visualization, suggestion of a certain message and touch. First of all if you know a person’s values, desires and fears you can pretty much control that person. NLP applies in communication, psychotherapy, negotiations, business and administration,” answered Sorin.
Another participant asked:“Do you think psychology should be a mandatory subject?”
Sorin’s answer was:”I think general psychology should be, but special psychology should be just for people who have the capacity to fairly use this knowledge to help people.”
In conclusion, Sorin stated that he chose the path of philosophy and psychology to have an impact in the reality that we live in. He is very dedicated to his teaching activity and believes that will be able to make a positive change in the society through his students.